Grief & Loss

There's no right way to grieve, and no schedule for when you're supposed to feel like yourself again. Maybe the loss was recent and you're still in the thick of it. Maybe it was years ago and it's surfacing now in ways you didn't expect. Maybe the people around you have moved on and you feel like you're supposed to have moved on too. The work here isn't about solving grief or getting over it. It's about moving through it, at your own pace, so you don't have to carry it alone.

Grief isn't only about death

We grieve more than we lose to death. The end of a marriage. A friendship that quietly disappeared. A parent who is still alive but was never who you needed them to be. A diagnosis that changed the future you'd imagined. A version of your life that didn't happen.

These losses are real, and they deserve the same care as any other. But because the world doesn't always recognize them, people often carry them silently, unsure whether they're even allowed to grieve. You are. And there's room for that here.

What grief can look like

Sometimes grief looks the way you'd expect: sadness, tears, missing someone so much it aches. But it can also look like numbness. Irritability. Exhaustion. Guilt about what you did or didn't do, or relief you're ashamed to admit. A fog that makes it hard to focus on anything.

It can also come in waves, long after you thought you were through it. A song, an anniversary, an ordinary Tuesday. None of that means you're grieving wrong. It means you loved something, and the loss is still asking for your attention.

What the work looks like

We make room for the loss, whatever shape it takes. We go at your pace. Some sessions might be about the person or the life you lost. Some might be about what the loss has stirred up: old wounds, questions about meaning, other griefs. Grief rarely travels alone, and we'll tend to whatever it brings with it.

The goal isn't to leave the loss behind. It's to find a way to carry it that doesn't take everything from you, so the love can stay and the weight can ease.

When to reach out

There's no threshold of grief you need to meet first. If the loss is taking up space in your life and you want company in it, that's enough.

I see clients in Issaquah, Sammamish, North Bend, Snoqualmie, and across the Eastside. Telehealth is available to anyone in Washington. The free 15-minute call is a gentle place to start.